The best defense is a good defense?

If anyone has had the awesome pleasure of dating (or trying to date) in this day and age they know that everyone is uber defensive.

Gone are the days of trying and putting forth effort.  I don’t know if it’s a coping mechanism but, it seems a good defense is what everyone has.  We’re so busy trying to stop the hurt, we can’t start the loving! Or even trying to build to get to the loving.

From the lonely brother to the lonely sister, we’ve all gotten so accustomed to hurt that it’s to be expected. Or worse, we become self saboteurs.   Sabotaging any and every dealing in our lives because, “eventually it always happens.”

As we all know, no two people are the same.  Having that knowledge, why would one think the worse of all situations? Aren’t you deserving of the focus and attention you give? Or is that we only get what we receive?

Personally I’m tired of the lackluster attempts at “getting to know me.”  Or the all too popular, “I’ll think i’ll let it fade.”

Often  we forget we were once the abusee trying to figure out why can’t the other person just, “be real.” Honestly what is there to lose?  Maybe the person you’re seeing is not meant for you right now but, by being shady or immature you’ll never know.

Don’t we all want the best?  If this is true, then why are so many of us so wrapped up in these “must have” lists?

I challenge us all to make genuine connections and be honest when there is none.



~ by bewradley on March 2, 2010.

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