Things I need

This is what I’ll be doing either Friday or Saturday.  I really want to see this in Imax so I may just see it saturday if the MD Science has it.  I’m super psyched.. was that geeky?

That’s the way of the world

Just a lil something as the world spins around.
There’s been some new things here and there in my life but, I don’t want to jinx them.
Mostly i’ve been happily even.   Existing in elation.    I’ve awaken on gloomy days with a huge grin and love in my heart.
I hope you all have a bit of each.

-Love.

The best part of breaking up

The best part of breaking up with a man is the things that you acquire post breakup.  The things you have of his that he no longer wants because they remind him of you.  I know you’re wondering, what does this white man have to do with anything post breakup.  I’m glad you asked.

The #1 thing  I love about breakup’s are…………………………………….the cool hats I acquire. (Such as the lovely Nautica hat above)

I can’t tell you how much I hate shopping for hats.  I love them, love the way they look on me but, I have no idea how to shop for a baseball caps.  I mean maybe I do but, find going into Lids and getting my noggin measured a bit much.  And besides who wants to mess up their hair?…lol

How do i acquire said hats you may ask?  Well, you all know chicas have bad hair days and what boo doesn’t come to the aid of his lady in situations such as those.  He hands over said hat and viola! Problem solved.

Usually in these situations they’ll give you a hat that doesn’t matter to them much  so they don’t mind not seeing it again but, there are times they’ll give you the cream of the crop.

My ex from college was famous for letting me borrow his most nicest of hats.  There was the Eddie Bauer goretex rain repellent ball cap, the sweet khaki nautica cap and the throwback O’s hat.  Of the 3, which 2 do you think I retained? ( I mean you know one but, you don’t know the second)

I just wanted to send a thank you out to every man I’ve dated that have left a piece of you with me.  The item doesn’t bear any sentimental thoughts but, it is a damn good staple in my wardrobe.

Thanks,

Bew

Table for One.

I’m back in a  period of my life where the burning question is being posed more often than not.  “Why are you still single?”  If I knew the answer I wouldn’t be single would I?

Wherever I go I’m always social or the life of the party.  Not out of necessity but, it’s who I am.  I have no problems meeting people and dudes absolutely love me.  So what’s the problem?  *shrugs* I don’t know.

All my friends believe me to be this uber charming and sweet woman…which I am. lol  Do men even want charming and sweet anymore?  I ask because  I was at a cookout this past weekend and witness something so hilarious to me.  I likened it to when you see a guy at a club and he’s talking to every chick.  Sort of like the odds game.  If you talk to every person in the room, your chances of a connection is far greater.  I saw a woman, in her late 20’s go after 2 different guys with some much aggression.  One guy was so totally on company time but, that didn’t stop her flirt.  It wasn’t until dude really started sending those “I’m not interested signals” that she abandoned her mission.  Not 10 minutes later when another dude showed up, she was on him.  It was like blood in the water, dude was the chum and she was the shark.  I laughed as i ear hustled my way into their interaction.  Basically she taunted dude, joned on his gear and then played him close as he walked through out the cookout.

I don’t know how successful her approach was because he was a pretty calm dude.  I was amazed.  A few questions came to mind.  Obviously she’s like that when she approaches dudes all the time. I want to know how successful is she.  Are men turned over by over aggression?

As I sat in amazement, I pondered my holla game (which is pretty much non existent).  Generally I’ll strike up a lil conversation, make a man smile and then usually I’ll sit back and see if he bites.  When he doesn’t say anything or kinda just trails off i’m usually out and over it by then.

Lazy? Maybe.  *shrugs*  I guess I have no aggressive fight.  Or I’d like to know that a dude is somewhat interested before i go hard.  I often don’t think men realize that reciprocity will get them a long way but, then again I think people are so far in their heads and their asses; that they can’t take a simple action as just that.  A simple action.  Like some times a text means what it means.  Have we been so brainwashed into think we need to “read between the lines” that we are forgetting how to comprehend simplicity?

*shrugs*

I just want to meet somebody new.  Who’s not jaded, scared and a d-bag.

The reason some girls stay single

The story is this:  a girl was out with friends having drinks on King St (in Toronto ).  This guy approaches her and won’t leave her alone -saying how cute she is. She finally gives in  and hands the guy her business card to get rid of him.
The attached  is an MP3 file of not one, but TWO voicemails this guy left. This goes down  in the history books – especially the second voice mail.
After hearing them you can clearly see why she didn’t call him back - instead she called in to the Z103.5 morning show & had them play this on the air.
Ladies: He is out there…

The Stud

We’re adults no?

Then why are we forgetting that?

In 1 weekend i’ve been a witness to some adult tomfoolery.  In each instance the person did not see how the circumstances and the outcome was their fault.  No, both of these situations weren’t men.  Of the 2 offenders, 1 was a chick.

It boogles my mind that people still are doing some very very shady things when it comes to dating.  Considering how small the world is (especially when your social network overlaps), you’d think people would be on their best.  Nope.

Story #1:

My home and his girl has been thru their share of ups and downs.  They decided to give it the ole college try but, ole girl still seems to think she’s single.  I don’t see how when they reside together and you claim you have a man.  She stays entertaining and going out on “dates” that she’s set up under the guise of being “just friends”.  So friday she claims to have been in the house all day because of the weather.  That would be all fine and dandy if I didn’t see her going to lunch with a mystery man. I did not tell my homeboy.  I did however tell the bff who told him.. *rolls eyes* In this instance i shouldn’tve said a damn thing.  It got back to the chick who then said i needed to mind my business. LOL! That’s true but, ummm girl how u finna lie to ya man?! She in the end claimed the lunchdate was nothing and that the lunch date picked her up not in front of her apartment but some other location. LIE! hahahaha  The very bad thing about working downtown is you see all kinds of things and this was one.  In the end I wanted to smack ole dude upside the head because he keeps letting her “get away” with all this tawdry behavior.

Story #2:

A dude i’d dated some 7 months ago has been using my Facebook friends list as his own personal dating pool.  One of my college associates hit me up saying how dude was crazy and so forth.  Honestly I was not adding any fuel to this one when he deleted me as his friend.  He’d later say he deleted me because I tried to put him out there.  True, I did say on facebook that if you have a question about adding someone from my network; hit me up via my status update. LOL! I mean but, it wasnt the first time a male associates has hit up one of my female associates.  I just wanna know: HOW THE HELL YOU FINNA GET ANGRY AT ME CAUSE YO HOLLERATION FELL OFF!

WHERE DEY DO DAT AT?

At any rate, what is up with this madness?  Like, I wanna know what’s going on in peoples noodles (brains).

A Teenage Love Pt. 1

Recently my 1st boyfriend found me on Facebook.  It opened up the floodgates about our history and past.  Below is the 1st part of a possible 2-3 part series.

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It was the 2nd week of 7th grade.  I was attending Lombard Middle School at the time.  Because my living situation was a mess I was staying with my sister in West Baltimore.  I commuted to school every day from West to East because I hated the thought of a new school.  If there was one thing that would be constant in my life at that time, it would have been school.

I was one of those geeky cool kids.  You know the ones.  The ones who raised their hand for every question but, would cut up and talk during class as well.  I was sitting in my social studies class I believe when Mr. Manfries interrupted the class to introduce the new student.  At Lombard they classified your learn abilities by placing you in classes with such students as yourself.  I was in 7-01.  I’d been in 6-01 the year prior, maybe that extra year in 5th grade did me some good.

Mr. Manfries was one of those cool teachers.  He liked to make us laugh as he taught us about our “fore fathers.”  He loudly shouted in class, ” 7-01, meet you newest classmate Al B, he’s transferring from 7-15.” (I’ll call him Al B. because one day he wore a 2 piece biking outfit to school…that’s a whole nother story lol.) I thought, OMG! 7-15!  Wtf, they really must’ve thought he was daft to be that far behind.  So i cracked a joke and it was immediately that mr. Manfries assigned Al B the seat beside me.

Al B and I barely spoke in class those first few days.  It seemed in every class he was either beside or around me.  One day in gym we were playing Basketball.  Of course I was the last one chosen but, I let the 3 other dudes on the court have it because they were a mixed bag of athletic nuts. ( too awkward, too short and too silly).  The 4 of us began to play.  2 of the guys thought it would be cute to man me up with Al B.  I was on defense when Al B did an awkward Ball handling move.  I’d motioned to smack the ball out his hand but instead I smacked him in the face, so hard he fell.  He had the darkest markings i’d ever seen in my life…my little hand.  I lol’ed for a second before I offered to get him ice.  It was that day that we forged a bond.

Come to find out we shared the same birthday but, we were a year apart.  I thought how strange i’d end up befriending a dude who’s intials were the same and who’s b’day was the same.  I knew he was cute and he was fun to be around but, I didn’t see what would happen next

Eventually Al B wrote me a long letter and then I guess you could say he was my 1st boyfriend .  We never had sex and all we did was play video games and kiss…lol.  By kiss you know what i mean *winks*. Pecks all the wayy.  It wasn’t until our 8th graduation trip to Kings Dominion that we kissed with tongues on the ride back as we held hands.  It was the best night of my life.

 Holidays I’d come to hang out with he and his family.  After school I’d hang out and sometimes on the weekend.  This went on till a little past 8th grade.  Al B never knew about what was going on with my home life.  And it was because of he and his family partial I survived it unscathed.

We’d made this plan to go to the same high school to continue our “bond” but as it turns out it wasn’t in the cards.  I got accepted to City College, my first choice.  He, MerVoTech.  I was crushed.  It wasn’t as if our “bond” didnt survive my west to east commute.  I was realist and knew a new school would carry new temptations.

Al B assured me that he loved and was in love with me.  Even leaving middle school going into high school, our relationship was mature and light years beyond that of our peers.

*sigh*

Pt. 2 coming soon

I’m just bloggin’

A million ideas ran through my mind.  Such topics as, dating, sex and relationships.  Beauty, fashion and growing up to name a few.  One thought thrusted forth and birth this brief but poignant entry.

ARE YOU READY FOR SOME FOOTBALLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL??

No?  I Sure am.

As I stated in a previous entry their opening a new sports bar 2 blocks away from my house and I’m definitely uber ecstatic.  Like a child on Xmas excited!

The Ravens play the Redskins here in Baltimore and I know all the bars downtown will be packed.  What’s even better?  I’m off Friday!  I figured even I went balls to the wall night before, I could sleep the time during my trip.

Anywhoots…If any of you readers know of any fantasy football leagues please let me know.  I said i was going to make my own but at this point i dont know who’d join. lol

Peace, Love and Gap

Gonna give it to the world. Peace, Love and Gap! (c) Common

Prior to this last year the Gap was letting me down.  Their fits/sizes were all over, the jeans gave me the pseudo wood in front and the thighs just didnt give like i needed them to.  The shirts sized M or L were extra baggy, the dresses were sack like and I was only purchasing accessories.  Miraculously in the past 3 months, I’ve copped 3 different styles of jeans from them.  In addition to a slew of tanks, tees and lipbalms.

I guess they heard my humble pleas as i begged for the clean mature feel of Gap’s basic fashion staples.  Yes, I wanted that pant I could rock for a few years but, it wasn’t panning out for me prior to this.  You see I have a confused body.  Little booty, lotta thighs, broad shoulders and ample cleave.  Mixed up right?  So i’d find a bigger pant that fit my thighs and wouldn’t eventually tear but, the booty was baggy.  Or, the top fit in the boobs but not the shoulders.

The Gap has always been in my rotation but, never the main store I’d check for clothing.  Recently this has changed.  I’d gotten a coupon for 40% off any regular priced item and thought…why not get some of those limited edition 1969 jeans?

The 1969 jean is limited edition as, it celebrating the anniversary of when the Gap first opened it’s doors.  Some 35 years later Gap is still around and slugging it out with some of the worlds best jean brands.

I’ve always wanted to go to a store and get the custom fitting of jeans done and Gap has also answered that.  Starting Aug. 8, The Gap will host a Find your favorite fit event with jeans as low as 39.95.  In addition to finding your fave fit, if you purchase said jeans you get a coupon for itunes; so u can purchase the song that fits your jeans.  cute right?

Oh and what jean did i most recent settle on?  The Gap 1969 Always Skinny’s.  I was initially shocked at the ease and comfort by which these glided on my legs.  They fit perfect without several washings and come with rips in the knee and thigh area.  I’m almost excited to find out how they’ll look over time…I also do believe i’ll be buying another pair soon.  And you should too

-Bew

A little goes a long way

Yesterday as I was strolling the sunny streets of downtown Baltimore, I stopped at a bank; I was in need of lunch money.  While waiting in line I saw a guy fiddling with his back pack and cd player.  I noticed he was sweating profusely and decided to bust out a lil jokey joke.  To him I said, ” that just means you have on too many layers for the summer.” He turned around and laughed.  He further went onto explain how he’d just left the gym.  He readied his items, bid me farewell and smile hugely as he exited the door.

Normally I wouldn’t have said anything but I was feeling in a light mood and felt like striking up a conversation.  He was more than receptive and happy about it.  Everyone wins!

I exited the bank,  continued my walk and I saw him on the other side of the street walking the same route as I;  he was still smiling.

With much fervor, I continued my walk to Lexington Market.  We were only allotted an hour for lunch and I wanted to utilize my break to the utmost.

Finally, I reached Faidley’s inside the market.  I ordered my usual, 1 dozen freshly shucked Choptank Salts.  As I was dressing my salty treats I turned around and who was standing in the gateway of Faidley’s seemingly looking for me?  Him! Dude from the bank!

He briskly comes over to me and strikes up the following conversation:

Him: I just wanna say that you speaking to me made my day.  Not many women speak to us brothers and it made me smile that something so simple as a joke added extra pep in my step. It was also bold…not bold in a bad way but good.

me: I’m glad i could help.  We all deserve a moment of reprieve from our mind and it’s thoughts.

H: *smiles hoard*  so i know you don’t have any kids because you’re too happy.

M: damn..no i dont have kids.

H: you don’t seem jaded and that’s nice.  I’d ask you for your information but i’m currently in a situation (it seems like every dude is in a situation..and usually when they say this, i’ve already checked out)

M: That’s ok. And well thanks?

H: *laughs* that was awkward..i mean i’m divorced and i’m kinda seeing someone now..

M: You don’t have to explain but thank you for your kind words.

H: Damnnnn man.. you have a very beautiful face..like a television persons face.. the smile the eyes.. do you work out? Cause you look nice..

M: *cheeses* Thank you. And no I can’t say I work out as much as I should but my wii fit makes it a bit more fun.   Well, let me eat my lunch.  I only have 20 more minutes and would like to be back on time

H: You take care and don’t change..never…for no one..dont become bitter and jaded.

M: I won’t..see you around

Now… after he left I sat there and thought.  Thought about what goes through guys minds that they dont really talk about when it comes to dating and such.  It was refreshing that a guy I did not know basically imparted a few of his views on the current status of dating.  I kind of wished for a moment that all guys could be as honest with themselves as they think they are with you..but alas que sera.

I smiled and smiled heartily for that moment, if not the whole day.

A little kindness goes far.

namaste.