Table for One.

I’m back in a  period of my life where the burning question is being posed more often than not.  “Why are you still single?”  If I knew the answer I wouldn’t be single would I?

Wherever I go I’m always social or the life of the party.  Not out of necessity but, it’s who I am.  I have no problems meeting people and dudes absolutely love me.  So what’s the problem?  *shrugs* I don’t know.

All my friends believe me to be this uber charming and sweet woman…which I am. lol  Do men even want charming and sweet anymore?  I ask because  I was at a cookout this past weekend and witness something so hilarious to me.  I likened it to when you see a guy at a club and he’s talking to every chick.  Sort of like the odds game.  If you talk to every person in the room, your chances of a connection is far greater.  I saw a woman, in her late 20’s go after 2 different guys with some much aggression.  One guy was so totally on company time but, that didn’t stop her flirt.  It wasn’t until dude really started sending those “I’m not interested signals” that she abandoned her mission.  Not 10 minutes later when another dude showed up, she was on him.  It was like blood in the water, dude was the chum and she was the shark.  I laughed as i ear hustled my way into their interaction.  Basically she taunted dude, joned on his gear and then played him close as he walked through out the cookout.

I don’t know how successful her approach was because he was a pretty calm dude.  I was amazed.  A few questions came to mind.  Obviously she’s like that when she approaches dudes all the time. I want to know how successful is she.  Are men turned over by over aggression?

As I sat in amazement, I pondered my holla game (which is pretty much non existent).  Generally I’ll strike up a lil conversation, make a man smile and then usually I’ll sit back and see if he bites.  When he doesn’t say anything or kinda just trails off i’m usually out and over it by then.

Lazy? Maybe.  *shrugs*  I guess I have no aggressive fight.  Or I’d like to know that a dude is somewhat interested before i go hard.  I often don’t think men realize that reciprocity will get them a long way but, then again I think people are so far in their heads and their asses; that they can’t take a simple action as just that.  A simple action.  Like some times a text means what it means.  Have we been so brainwashed into think we need to “read between the lines” that we are forgetting how to comprehend simplicity?

*shrugs*

I just want to meet somebody new.  Who’s not jaded, scared and a d-bag.

~ by bewradley on August 30, 2009.