E is for Effort.
How easy is it for guys to fall in some *cough* trim?
Very easy is my answer. Simple because it seems as if dudes don’t really try anymore. Like, “let me try with my least amount of energy and see what i get.” Ugh!
I’d been on a decent dating high when an instance bought me down off my cloud.
A dude i’d known for some time, had seen me out and we reconnected. We hung out a few times and really had a good time. I’d say a few times he’d been to my house to chill out with me and my folks. The energy was there and everything. You know how you get those good feelings about good dates and seemingly good people..oh yeah, you’re hopeful.
He’s was the kind of guy that emails and texts a few times a day to see how you are. Give u a little pet name that induces a smile and you felt a lil giddy…it was happening.
and then…
One day you notice that as you get further along ,the suggestion is to stay in and have drinks or watch a movie. And then at the end of said hanging out time..there is talk of hanging at a lounge or “something.” You say ok and…nothing. Every time thereafter such speak is thrown to the way side. The max amount of effort is put into coming to your spot but not so much when it’s time spent outside.
I know you’re wondering…Had we had sex?…nope. And I know some readers will say that’s why but “shrugs”, who knows.
I asked the usual questions that change as things get further. Are u married? Do you live with someone? Lol…strange but these questions ring true sometimes..had a friend who was dating a dude for 2 months before he told her he lived with his ex. She was so caught up in how smitten dude was with her, come to find out he was smitten with a place to crash and some @ss.
A while ago I said, “the things you do in the beginning of a new relation is what sets the tone for the future of that dealing. I’d like to say that this theory may be rubbish.
Dah well.
I know i’ll get a text tomorrow saying good morning..and then about noon i’ll get the what are your plans for the evening text. To which i’ll respond……
Hey it is what it is… If people let it be easy, others will eventually take advantage of that. I’m feel like a growing number of people are just settling for whatever.