Because at the end of the day…

I’ve always hated that phrase and i cringe when people use it.  But i digress..

Why is it that people want to debate who’s more wrong when there needs to be a resolution? Do they even want a resolution?  Why do they always have to be right? Are you trippin, are they trippin?

When trying to move past something people ( myself included) tend to wretch up the past one mo gin’ to prove a point.  The other day I was listening to 2 people argue/talk(they did ask me to listen..lol).  I listened to both of their points and thought they both had valid observations.  I sat waiting for the point of the conversation/argument/debate…there was none!  It made me think of some of the conversations/arguments/debates i’d gotten into and how I’d handle it and the resolve.  In some instances I was wrong but not all wrong.  I thought of how the other persons arguments were moot and didn’t make me want to work anything out.  Petty, I know but we all have our moments.

Recently when it comes to opposition or just some random tomfoolery in my life, i’ve been taking the path of least resistance.  Simply not doing anything or just letting it go.  In the past I would have gotten stank about it and lashed out…gone.  I’ve realized I’m a part of the problem but, not solely the problem as most would have me believe.  My perception is pretty on point with the reality of each given situation.

Now I know some folks are like, oh you on that zen shiggidy.  And it does sound a whole lot easier saying it than actually putting it into practice.  I promise, the end result in your dealings will come out 100% better.

One such conversation comes to mind.

Him: Hay

Me: Hay

Him: what’s been up stranger?

Me: Oh hay stranger.. Nothing much working and the such..

Him: Oh! don’t put me in that boat.. (ummm..he wasnt trying to reach me..he called like a few times during our whole “going out/hanging out” phase)

Me: yeah, you know hanging with my folks..living.

Him: Oh yeah..last I’d heard from you, you were busy and need to call me back..i guess u never got unbusy (ummm i lol’ed here because dudes always wanna scream about chicks getting pissy but ummm…yeah)

Me: My bad..Top Model Wednesday’s are typically off the hook.  I’m sorry.

Him: Oh.

Me: So what’s been up with you? (I was trying to move past the instance)

Him: You know phones work 2 ways?

Me: oh yeah..i said sorry.. but you could have just called back.

Him: laughs.

Me:  *not saying anything* (because really I didn’t wanna get into a debate about who calls more when we both dont!  I’m not calling because i don’t think you’re that interested…i’m not a rebound or time passerby’er and besides no level of consistency is not going to change a man’s mind if he has it made up.)

Me: Lemme go grab some lunch. You be good.

Him: Yeah.

I laughed at this whole conversation in hindsight because it was pointless..what was going to be the resolve?  i said i was sorry what more could i do?  I mean I could’ve called him immediately but that would have been Douchey(short for: douchebag)

Moving forward practicing this road of least resistance will be tiring but i’ll do it because it just feels alot better.

~ by bewradley on April 21, 2009.