Oh the joys of dating.

We all go thru our trials and tribulations when dating, some more than others.  Some dates you wanna remember, some you wanna forget.  I’m all for forgetting those that sucked turds.

As of late i’ve been on a series of successful dates.  But first let me back up and say folks get confused when the word dating comes up. In the hood or around the way..they say hooked up/talking to/kicked it – meaning had sex.  More often than not when someone says they kicked it or talked to someone there was no dating involved.

So what is dating?

Date- [deyt] Show IPA noun, verb, dat⋅ed, dat⋅ing.

a social appointment, engagement, or occasion arranged beforehand with another person: to go out on a date on Saturday night.

So having established that as our definition we’ve all had dates.

One thing that I’ve noticed about my dates is that I’ve been meeting more gentlemanly doods… and I have been soaking it up.  Calls and texts to see how I am.  No avoidance, light easy conversation, and most importantly consistency.  I can’t say where it is going but i find that because dood/doods are more open communication wise it kinda takes out that question phase of new things.  I have no problems flowing if we are indeed flowing.

And most importantly,  pace.  The pace is not super slow and it’s not super fast.  Dare I say things are mutual…that always makes things that much more better.

While we’re on the topic of dating…In the midst of somethings  flourishing others are falling by the way side.  As with anything you give effort to your effort diminishes when you feel thing aren’t equal..or as close to it as possible.   Having said that i’ve totally turned my attention away from some.  It’s true when folks say they want something they cant have…and that’s sad that it takes someone ignoring a grown dude for them to make and effort..lol.. grow up.

~ by bewradley on March 23, 2009.