On: group outings
Often within in my circle of friends, I am the organizer and motivator. I’m always great at this because I have my look down pat and I’m considerate of other peoples time. I love my friends dearly don’t get me wrong but they can be the biggest killer of your time. More and more i’ve realized why i always roll solo. Altho rolling dolo is not half as fun as having story to mutually share the day after, but it has it’s perks.
The past 2 festivals I’ve rolled with somewhat of a crew. It’s hard rolling with a crew thru a festival because someone always gets lost or you have to stop a million times in the congestion. Artscape was no different. 1 person fell off the count because she couldn’t find parking. Now, I wasnt in a rush to get to the festival but i knew that the food and things would be kinda packed up at about /1011ish. We didnt leave the house till about 9 ish. I’d made it over my bff’s house at about 5ish, she called me like their was some urgency.
Everyone had to be uber cute before we left the apartment, all i could do was shake my head because as much as my friends tease other chicks about getting uber dolled up..they do the same damn thing. (I guess in some theory, the saying women dress for other women is true). I was all about cute comfort..that’s what i’m all about..other than that..it’s fashionably functional.
But anyway, we get to the festival go to the part where they have the earrings and oils and things…by the time we waded thru the people to and fro it was about 12am ish. We walked thru so many people for no one to buy anything and we didnt even see anything related to artscape. By this time I was pretty annoyed and just ready to go home and sleep…..but true to group outtings..someone is hungry..probably has been hungry since we left the apartment but..aight..we stop for sushi..there was some talk but not much..the bill came and of course there was a shortage, there always is in group outings. It’s not hard to tally up what you owe with tax and your part of the tip. The bill was passed around again, and i passed it forward again. i paid mines and a lil extra so this second pass would miss me. Normally I won’t say anything but this time i had to ask a friend about a transaction they made with another friend. She forgot that fast that she had taken someones share and decided to put it on her card. *smh* Afterwards i bid my folks adieu and trucked home.
Later a few friends asked me was I going to artscape today..i specifically told them I was but not till 730 and I’d be coming home shortly thereafter. Moving forward I’ll show up late down the bff’s house since her house is the starting spot for all of our adventures. I guess that’s why i’ve been leery as of late to go on anything in a group setting. I guess it’s the down part of having alot friends.
I’ll leave you with one more tale of friendship and tomfoolery..
A friend of mine is always late to things..like you’ll invite them to something and they wont show for about 2 hours. This friend has also said they feel kinda awkward when hanging out because they don’t partake in the things that we also do. Now, that’s the thing about friendship, your friends aren’t gonna do everything you wanna do 100% but you’re also not feeling like a 5th wheel. Normally I’ll text people to include them but this friend always has something to say. Sometimes I’ll invite them out and others I won’t. So one day we were talking, i asked the friend their weekend plans. This fool said, “you guys get the weekdays,” I stood there with this look like..you bamma you always complain about how sleepy you are during the week but whatever. It just confirmed why I often don’t text to invite them out during the week. At first it was bearing in mind their working situation and all but now it’s just whatever. The truly ironic thing is when this person has a party they’ll call and text you..asking when u coming to their party…karma people karma..I’m not saying i’ll purposefully leave them out but when i do things on the weekend that lil blurb will always play in my mind. I also think it was a case of when witty goes bad(that’s another blog entry)
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